01-24-2025
Focusing on Strengths Calms Anxiety
Even the most capable children sometimes complain, "I don't get this," or "I'll never get this! I'm stupid!"
To address self-criticism:
- Focus on your child's strengths. Don't emphasize failures.
- Talk about how your student improved—not about mistakes or forgotten material.
- Challenge negative talk. Remind your child of past successes.
- Put setbacks into perspective. "Yes, you got a disappointing grade. But you can learn from this and do better next time. Let's talk about things that might help."
- Avoid comparing your child to siblings or anyone else.
- Be a booster. Never say, "Stop complaining and get to work." Acknowledge that the work might be challenging. But note that your child has done difficult work before and triumphed.
- Show interest in what your child is learning. Ask to see the work.
- Listen attentively to what your student says about schoolwork without judging or arguing. If you have a concern, share it with the teacher.
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